Waking up on April 15th/2009, no one expected anything out of the ordinary around the Hero Holiday house. We crawled out of bed, and got ready to go meet up with the group for their last day in Mexico. But before we left the house that morning our normally happy, euphoric way of life was threatening to crumble around us.
Living in Mexico has been a blur of unbelievable experiences, we constantly meet amazing people and we’re always doing things that seem worthy of the movie screen … not everyday life. And although we are surrounded by poverty and hardship, there is always a positive feeling of calm around us. So when our interpreter and friend Santiago took his pregnant wife, Julia, to the hospital on the 14th, our hopes were high that things would work out well. Even after baby Betsebet Nicole was delivered prematurely and rushed to Ensenada, her daddy close behind … we maintained a positive outlook on the situation. There is better care in Ensenada, they’ll get her healthy and they’ll come home.
We awoke on the 15th to the terrible news that Betsebet had only lived a short 15 hours of life, not even long enough to meet her mother. It was obvious that everyone of our hearts broke, aching for the loss our close friends had just experienced.
We stumbled through the next few days finishing off with our group, making preparations for a memorial at Santiago’s house, and asking some very difficult questions about life. Nothing makes the state of a country more obvious than when it touches you personally. I find it really hard not to wonder how things would have worked out if this had happened in Canada. Would Julia have received better care? Would Betsebet have had a better chance at survival? Would our friends be stressing over lack of sleep and where to put the cradle right now, instead of funeral preparations?
Although babies and young children are lost daily all over the world, the sad reality is that its more likely in countries like Mexico. Countries where good health care is harder to come by, where transportation to the hospital and even the paycheck to pay for it all are harder to come by.
Betsabet was buried in an over crowed cemetery, where a large group of the graves are occupied by young children and infants. Walking through that cemetery, she is but another child who was lost before reaching the age of 5. Only in this case, she is the face and the name of a little girl we were expectantly waiting to meet.
I know that none of us, especially her parents, can make sense of how such a sweet baby girl could possibly be lost this early in life. Perhaps not a single person, anywhere, can really find an answer to that question. But the loss of her life has no doubt affected us all. She has reminded us all of how precious life is, and given us all a new reason to try to affect change in this world. Everyone should be given a fair chance at life.
It’s been a sad few days in the neighborhood, and all we can do is remember her short life and hold onto the presence she had in this world.
RIP Sweet Baby Girl.
Written by Kristi - School of Leadership Student




We are all so incredibly sad to hear about little Betsebet…our whole team was so affected by you Santiago and we grew to love you so much in such an incredibly short time…you had an incredible way of connecting with each one of us and had an incredible gift with people…we thought you were amazing and we all miss you so very much…we also loved Julia and even though we couldn’t speak the same language we felt a connection…one that amazes me that that can happen even when no words are spoken…she is a wonderful woman…we never imagined that the news you gave us during Christmas about you being a daddy would turn out this way…we have all been praying for you so much…it feels so useless being so many miles away…we would love to wrap you in one huge hug (one like you would give us that seemed to make everything okay)…when Kerry’s dad passed away they told us to walk through the pain not to avoid it and that helped us so much in dealing with things…if we needed to weep we wept and eventually God heals you and you start seeing miracles in life that totally blow you away…ways that God shows you that he is still right there and that he loves you sooo incredibly much!!! We love you both and hope to see you soon when we can give you that hug that we long to give…know that our hearts are with you and Julia…lovingly, Barb & Kerry Jackson, Savannah & Ashton
Santiago & Julia
I just wanted to pass on my families condolances on the loss of your baby girl.
Santiago, you should know that Kelsey & Alyia I were all brought to tears when we heard of your loss. My kids feel a real connection to you, and took your loss into themselves.
Harv & I lost an unborn baby many years ago, I don’t often think about it anymore, but when the emotions come back, they come full force.
I believe I will meet my baby in eternity, and I hope you and Julia will do the same one day.
You will continue to be in our prayers.
Love,
Harv & Jeannine, Kelsey, Quinton, & Alyia
hey i don’t know yall but just to let yall know i will pray for yall and i just had to go tho. the same thing. and IM REALLY SORRY FOR THE LOSS.
LOVE CHELSEY